Always and never thinking - "I will always be alone".
Attitude selection - the last of the human freedoms, the power to choose your attitude
Avoidance - fear of rejection may stop you from asking someone out. Expose yourself to your fears, tolerate the discomfort, encourage risk-taking
The power of NO!
Best friend argument -Would you condemn your best friend for this?
Blow-up technique -blowing result out of all proportions -the worst worst case.
Court discomfort
Cognition with ignition -practice your new attitude
Discomfort - the paradox of discomfort -avoid it to increase it -endure it to decrease it
esteem -we all have equal intrinsic value as human beings
False dichotomy - Either/or thinking
High frustration tolerance - I can stand it
learning: Planning - experiencing - reflecting -concluding
Motivation - direction, effort and persistence. Motivation comes when you take action.
Needs - there are no needs, only wants
Who puts you down? - You do it if you accept the putdown.
Rating - Performance is a measure of behavior not a person
Rejection - Others do not reject us. We reject ourselves. When someone is not interested in you, it can be for a wide variety of reasons. It could just be not on her schedule at the moment. But what do you say to yourself? "I must be nothing because she rejected me." However, you could with equal justication say: "She is not interested right now. That's all right. There are others who might be interested."
Reward - stroke yourself
Risktaking - It has two sides. You can see the downside but it could also fulfill your desires.
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